Life is…

Be kinds to others for everybody is fighting some kind of battle…

Taken from Yahoo Images

 We probably heard that once or few times in our lifetime. I am no exception and not to the saying either.

This year has been interesting to say the least. It starts off very good. Everything seems to start falls into places and I’m happy.

Comes March.. late march is when we heard about Kalia hearing problem. We learned that our beautiful baby girl is hard –hearing.

At that time, I don’t ever recall hearing more devastating news in my life.

I was so overwhelm with grief and guilt – for whatever reason. It wasn’t a good time.

 April came then things are slowly getting better again, both of my parents are here! I’m so happy I get to be a child again.

I love waking up to the sound of my parents talking about stuff over their breakfast.

It’s such a fond childhood memory where I wake up to see my dad with the newspaper and his cup of coffee on the table

And my mom sitting next to him while putting on make-up commenting on the news…

It’s comforting…

 Then June came, my dad have to leaves. He needs to go back to Indonesia to tidy up some business deal.

We made plan of him returning back in the fall so I can shows him beautiful CO during the fall season    

.. and its Tyra’s birthday as well.

We have so much plan….

 Then July came.. exactly one month after I say good bye to him at the airport, I have to say good bye to him again,..

This time forever…

God decided that it’s time for my dad to come back home for good. Leaving us here grieving, wondering why…

 Now we’re in October.. how time flew…

I survive the first holiday without my dad.. another one is around the corner..

 Leaves are changing, air is crispier. I wish my dad can see how beautiful it is here now..

I started remembering the plan we made…   promises I made to him.. 

 Life is cruel…

 Many – many times I wish I go back to my childhood.. When the life is so care free.

Playing and playing and playing with my friends…

 Life is cruel..

Then I remember something… a saying from Hadist

I said to Allah, I hate life.

Allah replied, who said love life. Love me and life will be beautiful.

Apparently I’m conservative

I had lunch with one of my colleague/friend yesterday and somehow we end up talking about politics and religion. My friend is a reform Jewish and as you all know I’m a Muslim. She asked me what my religion means to me and how I feel about the negative connotation it has with the world.

As for the negative connotation, yeah, I’m pissed. Not at the world, but at the small group that caused that negative images of my religion. I hate when people call me moderate Muslim or moderate Islam. To me there’s only 1 – ONE Islam and that’s me. People often mistaken or confused some countries culture with Islam. Just because the majority population of that Country is Muslim it doesn’t mean that their culture is acceptable in Islam. Honor killing for example. It is not part of Islam teaching at all. Or the Jihad word that been misused by group of terrorist. Btw, I read the Quran from top to bottom and there are no mentions in it of the 72 virgin and pool of honey.

My religion is a big part of me, it define who I am and how I acted. I’m far from perfect, but with religion I have guidelines of what’s right and what’s wrong, what’s acceptable and what is not and the realization there will be consequences later on.

That was my answer. She seems surprised. She said I was so easy going that she would never guess that I’m actually very conservative. Now that’s a first, no one has ever thought of me as conservative and I’m always leaning towards liberal more. I guess, I’m conservative when it comes to me, does it sound selfish? Maybe. In my mind, I have my choices and my believe and what I think it’s right or wrong based on it but I’m not one that will judge people based on their choices.  We are adult with realization of the consequences of our actions. God teaches us to Love and to Forgive and that’s what I tried to do.

The same feeling I have for my parents, love, respect and fear – especially to mom, is the same feeling I have for God and more knowing he’s capable of throwing my @$$ in hell 🙂

Why do I even talk about this? Who knows, I guess the conversation with my friend yesterday still stay in my mind. Her reaction when I bluntly told her I was still a virgin until I met my husband.

As for politics, I mention I always lean towards liberal more, my friends told me liberal is gutless. I chuckle at her comment. No matter what side you are on, left or right, at the end we all have a common goal to bring better life and better place for this country.

For friends and colleges who always engage in deep heat discussion of politics, I’d like to point out of what I think is the beauty of America. The wonderful result of democracy, each election here in US is unique and different and no same party will be in powers for more than 2 terms. I can’t imagine if 1 ideology stays in powers forever. Well, yes I can, look at Iraq, look at Indonesia during Soeharto regime or North Korea. When you look at that, you will realize how we have it “perfect” here in US. God Blesses the USA.


Not afraid of terrorism

I come accross a good reading this morning and I think it’s worth to re-post. I hope you enjoy it as much as I do.

I am not afraid of terrorism. Maybe it’s because I did not live in New York City during 9/11 or maybe it’s my corny belief that good always prevails in the end. Whatever the reason I find myself unafraid. Even with the arrests of alleged Al-Qaeda members, rising terror color-codes and wars raging in Afghanistan and Iraq.

I still find myself unafraid. I am not afraid because no one can tell me what I should be looking for in a terrorist. Well, not really. Maybe if U.S. intelligence could tell me specifically what a terrorist sounds like or smells like or eats. From the things I read and see on television I’m guessing most terrorists are of Middle Eastern descent, heavily bearded and absolutely positively they are Muslim. That’s it! Look out for intimidating Muslims in places with a lot of innocent American pedestrians. Hey, somebody quick, arrest Shaquille O’Neal!

Shaq daddy is a Muslim – did you know that? You didn’t see him and Sacramento Kings’ guard Peja Stojakovic kiss each other on each cheek before Western Conference Playoff games a few years back? Did you miss that? Did you think they were French? Those are two really big intimidating Muslims right there! Are they terrorists in training? The media (yes, I am included) uses death, Muslim and terrorism so collectively you would think they were the names of the Three Stooges! Is it fair?

When you look at Shaq in interviews, smiling, giving those incredibly witty sound bites, do you think of terrorism? Now that you know he follows the same religion as the Iraqi insurgents our American troops fight daily, will you look at him differently?

The word terrorism confuses me when it is married to the word Islam. Why are there Muslim extremists and not just Iraqi extremists or extremists (solo)? Is it because the extremists that carry out acts of terror against America hide behind their religion? Isn’t it the responsibility of the media (and individuals) to decipher Islam as just a characteristic of the extremists and not extremist as a characteristic of Islam?

Throughout history, the KKK has preached loyalty to Christianity but no one dares to label Christianity as a characteristic of racism. Adolph Hitler was also Christian (and also hid behind the religion) but I don’t hear Christianity glued to the phrase Nazism. Sexual abuse by priests has just cost the Catholic Church more than $1 billion in settlements but no one believes that being Catholic makes you more prone to becoming a child molester – and no one should.

So why is Islam automatically related to terrorists? And why do we so easily link the two?

Honestly. Are you aware that the “Muslim” extremists at war with the U.S. only make up a very minute percentage of Muslims worldwide? And when I say minute I’m talking about brothers playing polo minute, horse jockeys slam dunking minute, politicians getting crunk to Lil John minute! The same goes for the small percentage of Catholics who rape children and the very small number of Christian bigots who hide behind big white sheets.

Honestly. When you hear the word Muslim, is your first thought terrorism? Because when I hear Muslim, the first thing that pops in my head is one of my childhood heroes, Muhammad Ali. Ali, who as the Heavyweight Champion of the World decided that he would not fight in the Vietnam War because he could not kill anyone that did him no harm. His assistant trainer Drew Brown took it a step further in 1967 saying, “He’s fighting for the respect of his religion. He’s not fighting for his country.” Ali was stripped of his title and labeled an unpatriotic, out of control, radical Black Muslim. As a kid I learned on my own that Ali was fighting for what he believed in. What’s more American than that?

Honestly. When you think of Islam, do you think of terrorism? Because when I think of Islam, I think of Rasheed Wallace, the only Detroit Piston who entered the stands during the infamous NBA brawl. The only person with a jersey on that actually stopped some of those haymakers from landing. Mr. Technical himself became the calm Muslim weathering the monstrous storm of gigantic basketball players whaling on scrawny idiotic fans. Ironic huh, a Muslim trying to make peace.

Honestly. When you think of Islam, do you think about the thousands of criminals in our American prisons who convert over to Islam? The burglars, the rapists, the murderers and drug dealers all flipping the script and trying to get tight with Allah. But honestly, when I think of criminals becoming Muslims in prison I wonder what religion they converted from in the first place.

Sometimes I wonder how Ali, Shaq and Rasheed feel about the subject. About their religion being labeled as one of the reasons terrorists do what they do. I wonder if when they pray five times a day if some of those prayers ask for everyone to stop dragging their religion through the mud. If the league has phoned Shaq and Wallace and asked them not to openly talk about their religious beliefs in the best interests of the game. I wonder when they look into the mirror each morning if they find themselves afraid.

I am not afraid. And I will not be afraid if I sit next to a bearded Middle Eastern man on a plane. I will not be afraid if the terror color-code changes from a cowardly yellow to a ruby blood red. I will not be afraid if suspected al-Qaeda loyalists are arrested and dragged to GITMO kicking and screaming. I will not be afraid of any person based on his or her religion without knowing the quality of their character.

And unless I find myself back on defense alone with the ‘Diesel’ dribbling full speed ahead– I will not be afraid of Shaquille O’Neal.

Taken from: Shaq a muslim?

All that glitter aint gold




I work in Financial Services industry and part of my job is getting financials from our customer and to analyze them. Quarter end or year end is one of busiest day for us. I was just talking to one of the manager here that the worst customer’s attitudes are lawyers and doctors. (No offense for you if you are lawyers and doctors). They have attitude that they are better than us regular people.

10 years working in retail financial services, I couldn’t agree with him more. I always have a hard time collecting needed document from client who is a doctors or lawyers. Lawyers always acted like they are too busy to deal with you and doctors acted like they are God or Goddess and too important to deal with you. Surprisingly they were all nice when they need the loan. Hmm.. go figures….

I understand that doctors and lawyers are smart people. Both profession requires long school years and dedicated. Is that why they acted so snobbish? Because they think they are smarter and therefore they are better than the rest of us?

My first job here in America is QC for MCI and as I listened to a phone conversation between customer and representative. 99.9% of doctors who called, they will immediately identify themselves as DOCTOR and how they waited too long in line and how MCI wasted their precious time and they should be compensated. 99% will tell you how much money they make in an hour and wanted to be compensated for wait in line to get to representative. I’m not kidding, 99% of them will do that! 

Does Doctors really need to be respected more than normal? It is a very respectable profession, don’t get me wrong, but they are no God. They human like the rest of us, and what about teacher? Why don’t/can’t we respect them more? If it wasn’t because of them, they won’t be any doctors or lawyers in the world. Is not like they just sprung out of the ground.

We have to respect each other. They are no question about that. We also have to remember that we are only play a small part in this world. We all have a role to play big or small, that role complete the whole set. We all just as equally as important as the next person. Is what I believe how God intended. In the eyes of God, no one is better than the others. When we all die, we all back to dust, regardless of who we are.

Well, not only doctors and lawyers have this attitude. I truly don’t understand when people think they are better than anybody, periods.  It’s funny but those who do achieve more and had accomplished more in life are mostly humbled. In Indonesia we have a saying or a philosophy called rice paddy philosophy. Rice paddy, when they are empty they stood tall, as they filled with rice, they head bow down…  the more we know and the more we learned, Is when we should realized that we still don’t know anything and that they are still more to learned.

Back to doctors and lawyers… I think sometimes we (regular) people to thinks too highly of them. I remember watching the new commercial for Target pharmacy, where it shows a girl and her accomplishments throughout school and how smart she is? Then she becomes one of Target Pharmacist, well friends made a comment “Well if she is that smart why she don’t just become a real doctor instead of being someone who dress like one?” Really??? They are just as important… oh well.

I did my best

Few days ago I went to a funeral of Mr. M. I know Mr. M as a dad of my colleague, a cool guy who is very fun to talk to, very easy going. Funny and yet very intelligent that you can talk any subject with him.  A proud grandfather who just become a great grandfather. A loving husband who still brags about his high school sweet heart he married for 59 yrs.

Well, he was much more than what I just describe. I found out what a truly great person he was. He was a very successful business man. He was a President for Gates Corporation among other successful career life; he was very active in his church and local community. 

At his funeral, the church was packed! I mean packed with people want to pay their respect. A lot of people want to talk and share their story with Mr. M. How he has touch their life. I was touch. I still can’t believe how humble he was. With all his achievement, all of his success and yet me manage to stay and appear to be just regular guy.

I don’t know Mr. M that well and his life story makes me think and look back of what I have done, what is my purpose in life, it change my perspective. Also makes me think of people around me. Unfortunately I can’t help think of someone who just recently got a degree and much better job. No mean to discredit the hard work that was put into getting this degree and a much deserve promotion – but I can’t help think of the attitude change. Someone whom I used to think of being humble change overnight. Money, title and degree do change people. Oh well…

I can only learn from Mr. M. How you live your life reflected at your funeral. Just look at Mr. M funeral. People give him respect not because he demands it or force people to, but because we all wanted to. To respect someone who actually deserve to be respected. A life wasn’t wasted. He lives his life to the fullest and surrounded by people who appreciated, grateful and love him unconditionally. I wish I know him more, I wish to learn more from him. The world truly lost one of its greatest people. A true hero – even if it’s just for the community.

His son asked him one time, what he would want his family to say at his funeral. Mr. M answer, “Just tell them I did my best.”

Well done Mr. M. Well done. Good bye and may you rest in peace.

This song is a tribute to Mr. M. And for all of us … have a good weekend.

Our inner beauty

My radio station KS 1075 talked about children and make up few days ago. They got people calling in about their opinion on children and makeup. Majority of parents share my view on this – they don’t like it!

Parenting is a very touchy subject and I’m not one to make suggestion or giving advice on it. My kids are only 5 and 11 month old; I have a long way to go! But every time I see kids 13 yrs old and younger and they already wear full make up and do their nail, my eyes just cringe. That’s seems to be a bit too early. I remember when I was 5 – 13 yrs old I was still playing outside with friends in the dirt running around carefree with friends all mixed boys and girls.

I understand that times are different, but can the innocence of a child be that much different? Now kids are more into appearance. They already talk about boys since I don’t know how young… and wearing full makeup on daily basis. I don’t even do that and I’m a grown woman in my …. err… let’s stop there.. 🙂

My Tyra is no exception. She loves make up too! Once in a while I let her plays little dress up and wear kiddie makeup but I’ll put the brakes on wearing makeup full time and do fake nail. I try to tell Tyra all the time how she already beautiful without all that colors in her face and lips. Am I too hard on her? I don’t want her to think that only with makeup she look beautiful.

I think in today’s world we all care too much about our physical appearance, and we forgot about focusing on the inside. Our inner beauty. When we focus too much on our outside appearance, we will always find something wrong and that’s when we start getting depressed and hurt because we feel that we’re ugly, no one like us. We don’t feel complete and being accepted by the world.

A lot of young people trying to be someone they are not. Peers pressure is there, no denying but if we start teaching our children that they are beautiful inside and boast their confidence, they will be happy with who they really are.

To me it’s more than just makeup; it’s more about showing my child of her true beauty. Tyra start realizing the physical different between her and her friends. I’d like to show her and teach her that even though we all different and may not be blessed with the same thing, but we all privilege and gifted with existence and we all beautiful.

My beautiful Tyra

When jokes are not funny it hurt

Gilbert Gottfrield just got fired over his tweet on recent Japan tsunami. He “sincerely” appologies since, but he lost his job as Afflac duck’s voice. I read his tweet and I didn’t find any of them to be funny.

I lost a relative during 2006 tsunamy that hit Indonesia. I still hear about the pain and suffering from that tragedy. It is 5 years later and I can still feel the pain. The recent tsunami in Japan just bring back bad memory.

So I don’t get the jokes and will never will. What can be so funny about a tragedy that leaves thousands people die? A tragedy that leaves damages part of a country, when family member are lost, parents lost their children, children lost their parents. Home were destroyed…… What can be so funny about that?

I don’t understand people. If you don’t have anything nice to say, best not to say anything at all.

Looking beyond someone complexion

I was born and raised in Indonesia. I’m so proud of where I come from and of my country. Indonesia consists of over 13,000 islands. Every province and region has their own language, culture, food and ethnicity. We are so diverse and yet we are one! Unity in diversity – that’s Indonesian slogan. I cannot be more proud of my country that is so rich is culture and natural resources.

On one little negative side, Indonesian have this stereo type that dark skin is ugly or low class and so on…..  Being the only one in my family who has dark skin * (more story on this at the end of this post), I have a lot of insecurity issues growing up. When the stereo type is so strong, you started to believe that you are ugly and start doubting everything you are. I’m grateful for my parents who  always raised my spirit and never stop convinced me that I’m beautiful regardless or as my mom called it my complexion is exotic. Hahaha I still got a crack at it each time I remember it. Makes me just love my parents more and more!

Little that I know, apparently the stereotype is common for most Asian country. That’s why there are so many whitening skin products back in Asia.  I really wish people more concern about other beauty than just appearance. I wish people back home can see through someone complexion.

My mom was a model, and I was surrounded by people in the modeling and movies industry in Jakarta. It’s not uncommon for mother and daughter to pose together but that never happen to us – honestly not that I wanted it though – but my sister receive a lot of offers to pose with my mom well you guess it, she have MUCH lighter complexion than me and personally I think she’s very beautiful too.

When I live in Australia, believe it or not, few modeling agency actually give me summer job. Once as one of the girls on billboard ad for Benetton. United Colors of Benetton – It’s United Colors so I don’t think much about how I get the gig.

Then, I remember the time when I was just arriving in America, I remember meeting a lot of new people and making new friends. On that memory, one person stood the most – a stranger but so friendly and has asked me this question “You have an amazing skin color, where did you get your tan?”  Based on the enthusiasm, this person wasn’t joking. It’s a genuine question.  “I would love to have your skin!”

And it’s start from there…

That time wasn’t the last I heard of that comment. A lot of people have been telling me how I have a great complexion. I can tell you how amazing it is to get compliment on something that you used to be ashamed of.

That comment truly brought up something inside me. I really wish other girls with dark complexion in my country – or in any other country – can hear what I just heard! We are not ugly! There are people out there who wish to have something that we thought was so shameful.

Complexion aside: I am proud of myself and what I had accomplished and what I’ve become. I owed that to my parents and I can tell you that I had accomplished more than some friends & family that used to “tease” me on my skin color. So “beauty” doesn’t guarantee your future… Hmm.. who knew? 🙂

As most of you know, my husband is Hmong, so naturally he has a light skin colors. When we’re pregnant it was mention once and twice by my husband family wishing that our kids will get his complexion instead of mine. Well… unfortunately when it comes to my kids I’m already biased, to me they are the most beautiful children in the world! Now I understand how my parents feel and think of me.

*Little story… I was born and raised in Indonesia. I went to college in Sydney, Australia and now I somehow landed here in US. Talking about journey of life. Indonesia just like any other Asian country is full of superstitious. One of them is when you’re pregnant you better not speak ill or bad about other or your child will look like them. Sound silly… well according to family member, while pregnant with me, my Mom always call one of the servant’s son a nick name of “dark skin” nothing bad intended, that is his nick name that other’s call him as well, but since my mom was pregnant at the time, people always remind her not to do so or her child will be born with dark skin… and here I am… her first born daughter came with yep.. a dark skin. I’m the only one in the family with dark skin.

Benetton Ad

How you un-friend someone…

That was a question my friend ask me one day in her email. I asume on fac ebook and I was about to inform her on how you can just delete that person’s name, but comes to think of it, I’m not sure what she meant, is it on facebook, myspace or wait, is she mad at me???

Then she share with me her story. She knew this girl a while back when they use to work together in different state. They met  during office party and somehow connected but work in different department so they hardly see face to face. Most conversation were done with email. Friendship blossom but unfortunately my friend moved to Colorado. They continue communicating, with text and email, share each other daily activity, etc….

The mention friend moved to Colorado a year ago. I remember how excited my friend was at that time. Even though they live quite far (30 minutes drive one way) they manage to see each other every weekend, sometimes even more than that.

And the truth comes out….. you can start seeing someone for who they really are after getting to know them. Email and phone call is not the same with seeing that person face to face. My friend start getting annoy by her friend’s attitude and it is not helping that her 3 yr old son was bullied by her friend’s kids.

I don’t think she meant by un-friend her friend in actual sense, she just need a way to not spending time with her and keep her distance, ah… that’s the problem with us Asian, our culture somehow didn’t really tech us on how to say no….

This got me thinking of marriage too. What my friend first experience is no different than dating. Met this new person, share something in common, all is giddy… then the honeymoon period, it’s like when she and her friend finally in the same town they finally catching up face to face.. lots to talk about all is beautiful bird was singing the sun is shinning… after a while the truth will reveal itself.

I remember my mom and my dad gave me this advise when I got married. “Person will change and will grow, your husband and you will continue growing especially that you’re both still young. Make sure that your marriage is also grow with you otherwise it won’t worked out.”

So is friendship …. Then again, marriage and friendship are kinda the same… your spouse suppose to be your best friend and the foundation of good marriage is good friendship between you and your spouse.

I hope my friend will not just give up on her friend. I remind her that everybody comes to your life for a reason….

Islam = Terrorist, the park51 debate

Islam is THE boogeyman….

I honestly don’t know completely how I feel about this. I wrote about this weeks ago when this issue first came up, but then I never publish it.

I’m a Muslim living in America, while I was still living in my home country and Australia, I always heard the horror story on American view on Islam. As always, I give it benefit of the doubt. Most of the time nothing really happen, but my experience living in Colorado Springs Is far from hate free especially towards my believe. Even before 9/11 happen, I went through an unpleasant experience.

America is pride themselves with freedom. Freedom of speech, freedom of choosing, freedom of practicing your religion – whatever it is.. etc… this freedom is what (supposedly) the terrorist after. Freedom is why American is now at war, sending troops to Iraq & Afghanistan in order to protect this privilege rights of freedom. Also to free the local people from the tyrant leadership.

9-11 happen. It happen because of the work of 19 hijackers – who happen to be Muslim. But of course, even though it’s not in the name of Islam, its Islam at fault, Islam is to blame and therefore every Muslim is a terrorist. Am I right? You don’t agree that you think every Muslim is a terrorist?? Well, if you don’t agree, then why there’s so much misconception about Islam, why there’s a term of Islamophobia? Most recently why there’s a debate over the park 51 project or what people call the ground zero mosque?

Here’s few arguments I read in the media over the past months:

And by the way… project Park 51 is not about Mosque, it is a community center project that will be open for the whole community. Much like YMCA.

The distance – too close to the ground zero. How far away would be far enough? Two blocks (Manhattan block), it is nowhere near the actual ground zero, you can’t even see the ground zero from the purpose location or vice versa. Should Oklahoma City not have any churches (or, as pointed out in the post, buildings with affiliations to religious organizations) within two blocks of it?

Here’s another blog that cover this issue. Where do you put a Mosque,  and by the way there is already a mosque within 800 feet of ground zero. Also on the other ground zero (the Pentagon), Muslim have been praying there daily with no conflict.

The sensitivity of the issue. For some, the proximity isn’t the real issue. The controversy lies in this proposed centre being Muslim, if they were build another YMCA, this wouldn’t been an issue. Now why is that? Did America really blame Islam for 9-11? Is Islam really at fault and part of the terrorist? I understand that 9-11 is a tragedy. It affected the whole world. I myself was crying when it happen. Little did I know, one of my childhood friend die on that American Airline plane, but even before knowing that, my hearts goes for all the victim and condemn the people or the group behind it, but that wasn’t Islam.

Now if they don’t let this through because of the controversy of the base of the religion, then its anti-American, and anti-Constitutional. And it would be a disgrace. This also mean, no matter what American will always see Islam as a threat, as the bad person, the blame behind 9/11.

The building is part of the sacred ground. The building was occupied by Burlington Coat Factory and now, I just heard that a piece of metal coming from the place landed on this building and that makes it sacred. Is that mean some porn shop and strip club in that area that was damage by the debris is also sacred? The zoning committee obviously doesn’t think the area is part of the sacred ground. Otherwise they will code it.

Where they get the fund to build this place? Well first of all why should we care? Oh wait… We do care because it’s a Muslim center!!! We need to know because everything related to Islam most likely to receive funds from the terrorist! Isn’t it what’s in everybody’s mind? If people will always make that kind of ridiculous connection then think about this, next time you ate at German restaurant, you also contribute to the Nazi, and when you buy a cookie at the Catholic Church bake sale that’s mean you also funding the cover up act of the priest in their pedophile case.

FYI, just for the argument sake, the man who apparently funded the Park51 Project is the Saudi Prince Alwaleed bin Talal. He is also the second largest shareholder in Fox News. Oh NO!!! Should we closed down Fox News as well???? Is kinda “funny” Fox News is the main media that stir up this nonsense, just few days ago, our lovely own, Glen Beck thinks that the mosque should be banned from the area because of its questionable funding but now we know that same man who is funding the mosque is funding Beck’s paycheck …hmm… I wonder if he start questioning his own paycheck now?

Still speaking of Glen Beck, he claim that that a mosque anywhere near Ground Zero would be terribly offensive to the 9/11 victims’ families, you know because all Muslim is terrorist and all…. But did he forget what he said on his own program few years ago? He said he “hates” the 9/11 families. And that he is “so sick of them.” That they should just “shut up” because they are “always complaining.” Wow… speaking of being insensitive!


No matter how you look at it, the whole argument – whatever it is – lies of the basic fact that this center is for Muslim. It depends who you think was behind the 9/11 attack. Islam was first to blame for Oklahoma attack. It was American very own Tim McVeigh – A Christian Irish American.

I can’t help but think some of this negativity is based on ignorance, majority American don’t really know the real Islam, I have one client that was surprise to know I’m a Muslim. This is what he said “Wow, you don’t act like one.” Umm… How does one suppose to act? Carrying a weapon and wrap my head in a turban? Or since I’m a woman, I should cover my whole face and body with just little peep hole?

The Park51 Project is actually trying to heal wounds, spread a true form of Islam and reach out to everyone in the community. Somehow I think they are failing in that endeavor just before it even started. I fear that this project will only trigger more bigotry and hatred towards Islam.  The proof is already in the making, this debate is one proof and also the Muslim cab driver that was stabbed in NY, and there’s Pastor Jones of Dove World Outreach Center – a peaceful organization they say – who will be hosting an International Burning Quran day on 9/11.

Need I remind people that there are Muslim who also dies in 9/11. There are Muslim dies all over the world fighting terrorism. There are Muslim in US Army who is fighting to take down Al-Qaeda. We are in this war together.

Based on this argument it seems like the war on terrorism is a losing caused … the soldier fighting, sacrificing their life to help the Iraqi and Afghan citizen so they can have freedom, yeah… they can come to America the land of freedom, ups … just not in lower Manhattan.  

Somewhere out there a group of terrorist smiling a victory smile… this debate just proof that America is failing at protecting their basic fundamental of freedom. Isn’t it exactly what the terrorist want? And the American people just give it to them in a silver platter…

For more opinion, you can read this as well.

Everybody entitle to their own opinion, whatever it is, it’s depend on who do you think behind the 9/11 attack. This is my opinion.